What should I look for in a therapist?

There are so many therapists out there and choosing the right one can seem overwhelming. Everyone has different preferences and needs, but here are some factors that can help you make the right choice.

First, it is important that you feel connected and safe with your therapist. It is hard to go through the healing process if you are guarded or don’t feel connected with your therapist. A good therapist should be empathetic, authentic, and capable of seeing the best in you.

Secondly, your therapist should be skilled and confident. While it is important to have a empathetic, kind and supportive therapist, it is essential that they are also skilled and confident in their abilities. There are a lot of nice, supportive people in the world and you likely have access to some of them in your own life, however they are not likely to charge you money for it. It is essential that you have a warm, empathetic therapist but also that they have a high level of skill and confidence to guide you through your process. In addition, it is important that a therapist isn’t confused with an advice giver. Therapists should not be providing you with advice or become your best friend.

Lastly, it is essential that your therapist has done their own therapy. What separates excellent therapists from their peers is that the excellent ones have done their own inner work. People who have worked through their life events tend to live authentically and relate to others with deep understanding and compassion. It also allows the therapist to understand how it feels to be on the other side and how difficult it can be.